"Had my father not been frozen by fear, he might have been able to talk openly and reaffirm his knowledge that his son really did love him. Instead, paralyzed by the implication that death was imminent, he brushed me aside with a wave of the hand and the comment that he wasn't going to die."
-- Dr. Joseph Sacco, in today's NYT article about what constitutes a "good death."
My experience with my father, at the time of his death, was very similar, if also different. We don't do death well, do we?